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Posts relating to thoughts and teachings of Ron de Brito.

Lonely or What?

I am noticing something hugely important to me: the dramatic contrast between how I am when I am exuberant with companions and how I am quietly at home, where I live alone. Am I “lonely?” I have been aware of this contrast for years, but it seemed inaccurate to use the word “lonely” on its…

Gratitude, Love and Appreciation

“Please help me!” I used to say aloud. When I felt small, vulnerable and lost, I felt depleted of resources to help myself, to take an action, to have capacity, to feel bigger and more powerful. Slowly, I have come to speak a new expression: “Thank you for helping me!” My explorations of noticing my…

Remember Who You Are

May I play with your attention before you speak? I am feeling curious about the words that fly about the place. What piece of substance is it that proclaims “I”? If you are standing, let your knees be soft and if you are standing, sitting or lying, feel the support of the ground under you…

The Art of Balance

I have been brain-mind thinking about bringing balance into my life. I notice my pattern is to push out my energy into my interests and purpose with enthusiasm and vibrancy, drawn by my passion and motivation into pursuits that inspire, feed and nourish me. That all sounds good. The very acts of putting my energy…

Emotions are living

“They’re too emotional.” “Sorry, I’ve come over all emotional.” Have you heard words like these? Why are we describing emotions as “too much” and apologising for them? What is strange about this, is that our emotions are exactly what we need, that tells us we are alive and interacting with the world around us. Emotions…

Blame – Choose Connection over Separation

When I talk about grief and sadness, people ask me about blame, as though there is a direct line from “my painful feelings” linked to “who is to blame.” When I say I am feeling grief and sadness, I am seeking understanding and compassion for my actions and other people’s actions. I am not feeling…

What transformation am I talking about?

When I am using Transformation in the title of this site, I guess it’s time to say what that means to me. There are two things I want to say. I was recently doing a charity walk in my local area and found myself walking alongside some lovely people to chat with, which I really…